Following the Four Agreements

I'm not going to set any resolutions for 2014.  I don't want to set lofty goals, either.  There are things throughout the year ahead that I look forward to, like moving when our lease is up at the end of August and my mom's visit in July, and will do some planning around, but for the most part, I am going to live for the moment, be present and create each new day. 

 

I will continue to fine tune myself and to discover what brings me joy & fulfillment, so that I am following my dream and living my authentic life.  I recently read The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz and just this morning was reviewing my handwritten notes.  This has given me some fresh perspective on the way I want to live, to be, how I will proceed into 2014 and beyond.  I thought I would share some of the wisdom I gleaned from don Miguel with you on this last day of 2013 in the hope that it may speak to you, too.

 

Agreement 1: Be impeccable with your word.

 

The word is a force; it is the power you have to express and communicate, to think, and thereby to create the events in your life. (p30)

 

Imagine that every single time others gossip to you, they insert a computer virus into your mind, causing you to think a little less clearly every time. (p44)

 

Your opinion is nothing but your point of view.  It is not necessarily true.  Your opinion comes from your beliefs, your own ego, and your own dreams. (p47)

 

You can measure the impeccability of your word by your level of self-love.  How much you love yourself and how you feel about yourself are directly proportionate to the quality and integrity of your word.  When you are impeccable with your word, you feel good; you feel happy and at peace. (p48)

 

Agreement 2: Don't take anything personally.

 

Personal importance, or taking things personally, is the maximum expression of selfishness because we make the assumption that everything is about "me." 

Nothing other people do is because of you.  It is because of themselves.  All people live in their own dreams, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in.  When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world. (p54)

 

Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you.  What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds. (p55)

 

When you make it a strong habit not to take anything personally, you avoid many upsets in your life.  Your anger, jealousy, and envy will disappear, and even your sadness will simple disappear if you don't take things personally. (p64)

 

Agreement 3: Don't make assumptions

 

These assumptions are made so fast and unconsciously most of the time because we have agreements to communicate this way.  We have agreed that it is not safe to ask questions; we have agreed that if people love us, they should know what we want or how we feel.  When we believe something, we assume we are right about it to the point that we will destroy relationships in order to defend our position. (p74)

 

Have the courage to ask questions until you are clear as you can be, and even then do not assume you know all there is to know about a given situation. (p78)

 

When you transform your whole dream, magic just happens in your life.  What you need comes to you easily because spirit moves freely through you.  This is the mastery of intent, the mastery of the spirit, the mastery of love, the mastery of gratitude, and the mastery of life.  This is the path to personal freedom. (p80)

 

Agreement 4: Always do your best

 

Doing our best, you are going to live your life intensely.  You are going to be productive, you are going to be good to yourself, because you will be giving yourself to your family, to your community, to everything.  But it is the action that is going to make you feel intensely happy.  When you always do your best, you take action.  Doing your best is taking the action because you love it, not because you're expecting a reward. (p86)

 

Whatever life takes away from you, let it go.  When you surrender and let go of the past, you allow yourself to be fully alive in the moment.  Letting go of the past means you can enjoy the dream that is happening right now. (p91)

 

Just to be, to take a risk and enjoy your life, is all that matters. (p92)

 

You don't need the acceptance of others.  You express your own divinity by being alive and by loving yourself and others.

By doing your best, the habits of misusing your word, taking things personally, and making assumptions will become weaker and less frequent with time.  You don't need to judge yourself, feel guilty, or punish yourself if you cannot keep these agreements.  If you're doing your best, you will feel good about yourself even if you still make assumptions, still take things personally and still are not impeccable with your word.  (p93)

 

You have to stand up and be human.  You have to honor the man or woman that you are. (p94)

 

We really need to use every bit of power we have to succeed in keeping these agreements. 

So if you fall, do not judge.  Do not give your Judge the satisfaction of turning you into a victim.  No, be tough with yourself.  Stand up and make the agreement again. (p97)

 

If you break an agreement, begin again tomorrow, and again the next day.  It will be difficult at first, but each day will become easier and easier, until someday you will discover that you are ruling your life with these Four Agreements.  And, you will be surprised at the way your life has been transformed.

Do not be concerned about the future, keep your attention on today, and stay in the present moment. (p98)

 

May we each follow our own path, with surprise intervals of crossing with one another so that we may gather in friendship & love.  I am wishing you a new year full of life, risk, adventure, happiness, fulfillment! 

~The Divine Mrs M



With Eyes Wide Open

Winding down the old year always entails putting away the Christmas décor.  But it sure makes things look sparse without all of the holly jolly, doesn't it??  This year, tho, we have rearranged the bedroom and living room furniture.  Of course, we only had the prior arrangements less than 4 months, but it's fun to mix it up!!! 

 

We'll leave 2013 with a clean home and a workout ... and begin 2014 with a clean home and a workout!  Both should bode well for how we "keep" the rest of the year!!

 

I'm not making resolutions.  I plan to keep on, keepin on!  I have already been working on peeling away the layers to find my true & authentic self.  I don't intend to stop the process of discovery!  I have no idea where I will find myself in 3 months, 6 months, this time next year and I am not concerned.  I have some interests I may pursue, like that personal training certification.  I am searching for meaningful work.  I will keep working thru my process and enjoy where it leads.

 

I might have a new job for the new year (I interviewed for an optician position just this morning).  We will only live in Longmont thru August, so I'm hoping this job, which is part-time, works out for the time remaining.

 

I will keep exercising (5K runs, weight lifting, some at-home stuff thrown in here & there).  I will continue reading my new books, library books and inspirational blogs.  I will keep up my blogging (but I NEED to move to another platform). 

 

We will visit new places around Colorado (Colorado Springs, Telluride, Pagosa Springs) and make a short drive to Wyoming!!

 

My mom is going to visit in July!  Her first visit to Colorado and, most likely, our first visitor.  It's going to be fun showing her around and seeing her fall in love with Colorado, like we did!!

 

And, there are going to be plenty more fun times that spontaneously arise. 

 

I go forward filled with the possibilities that await me, excited for the adventures we will find and hopeful for new challenges ~ living & loving mindfully...with my eyes and arms wide open.

Trumpet, Trombone, Saxophone!

Trombone Shorty and Orleans Avenue had the entire Ogden Theatre foot-stompin, hand-clappin & hip-shakin to their N'awlins sound!!!  They blew the roof off the joint!

 

Damn, do I miss NOLA and cannot wait for our next visit!

 

Oh, and I have decided that our next move, even if it is retirement, is to the Crescent City!!

 

The food, the culture, the music ~ it's all intoxicating!

Sweet Potato Cupcakes

These cupcakes are perfect as a dessert or individual candied yam servings!!!

 

1 15 oz can sweet potato puree
1/2 cup sugar
1/4 cup brown sugar
2 large eggs
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
3/4 cup evaporated milk
2/3 cup all purpose flour
2 teaspoons cinnamon
1/4 teaspoon salt
1/4 teaspoon baking powder
1/4 teaspoon baking soda

Mini marshmallows

Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Line two 12- cup muffin tins with silicone liners, foil liners sprayed with cooking spray or just spray the cups with cooking spray. {Paper liners make it difficult to remove the cupcakes.}

Mix the sweet potato, sugar, brown sugar, eggs, vanilla extract and milk. Add the flour, cinnamon, salt, baking powder and baking soda to the mixture. Fill each muffin cup with 1/3 cup of the mixture. Bake for 15 minutes, remove from oven and add 5-6 mini marshmallows, return to oven for 5 minutes.  Let cool for 20 minutes. Remove cupcakes from pan and chill in the fridge for 30 minutes.

 

You can make pumpkin cupcakes by replacing the sweet potato puree with pumpkin puree; cinnamon with pumpkin pie spice; topping with whipped cream and more pumpkin pie spice just before serving!!



Did You Know?

You can take your own travel mug to Starbucks and receive a 10¢ discount on any brewed coffee, hot tea or hand-crafted beverage?

Holiday Helpers

This holiday season, I have volunteered for the first time.  Chris & I served meals at the OUR Center the day after Thanksgiving and Christmas Eve.  We found it to be more fun than we would have thought.

 

I rang the Salvation Army bell for the Red Kettle campaign.  I added holiday flair to my outfit by wearing my reindeer antler headband ~ and got plenty of compliments!  It was the coldest day of the week and my time was 4-6PM, when the sun goes down, the temps drop right along with it!  Even with cold fingers and toes, I kept ringing my bell, never taking a break, and thinking how there are people who live outdoors.  I only had to endure for 2 hours!!  My fellow Coloradans were very generous in both their cash and their spirit!

 

Both were rewarding experiences and I am grateful that we have had made the time to help out in these small ways.  We live rather simply and know we have enough.  Giving our time to these causes costs us nothing, but earns us much.

Making Money the New-Fashioned Way

Many of us know about pinching pennies.  Being frugal.  Maybe even having multiple income streams.

 

Several times in the past, I worked 2 jobs.  Sometimes 2 part-time jobs, other times a side job to my full-time job.  Usually, it was just for extra money.  Like when we were paying off Chris's college loans. 

 

Right now, we only have one income, Chris's.  I have been looking for something, but am being more choosy this time around.  I want something that satisfies my need to help people.  I know it may not come to me right away and that I may have to take something in the meantime, which I am happy to do.  We have money in our savings account, but I would rather not tap into it when it can be avoided.  I would like to have multiple sources of income, while only working "outside" of our home on a part-time basis.  {Until I find the job that I cannot wait to get up for each morning and the time simply flies by while I am there and I am amazed when my work day is over.}

 

Over the years, I have come across some internet opportunities that make money. 

 

The first is ebates.  Before you do any more online shopping, get yourself an account with ebates!  Then, log in to this site and check for the online store from which you want to shop.  You can get a percentage of your purchase back to you in the form of a check!  I have done it, so I can fully attest to the validity of the site! 

 

Next, is Swagbucks.  Now, this one won't issue you cash directly; however, you can use your swagbucks to purchase things, like gift cards!!  Make Swagbucks your home page and use it for all of your internet searches to earn swagbucks.  You can also earn swagbucks thru surveys, purchases and a variety of other means.  I earn mine pretty much thru using Swagbucks as my primary search engine.  I have "purchased" many giftcards with my earnings!!!  You can keep them for yourself or give them as gifts!!!

 

Have you heard of e-rewards?  With this site, you get emails sent to you to take surveys.  They vary in length, and compensation is in direct proportion to the depth of the survey.  I have used my e-rewards money to buy magazine subscriptions, for myself and others.  But you can use them toward loyalty programs (airline & hotel) and discounts for online retailers, like Omaha steaks. 

 

And, last but not least, do you know of the Kiva micro-loan program?  While it is not a way for us to make money, it is a way to help someone make a living, usually in less fortunate countries, who doesn't have access to traditional banking.  I have blogged about them before, but was recently reminded of them when e-rewards offered a special magazine subscription-Kiva loan combo.  I was able to use my e-rewards earnings to buy myself a magazine subscription and e-rewards then made a $10 loan to a Kiva participant!  (When the loan is repaid, it does not come back to me, as I didn't make the direct transaction.)

 

 

 

 



Welcome Winter

It was a foggy start to our Winter Solstice.  There was frost on every living thing and the mountains were indistinguishable from the horizon. 

 

We went for an early morning workout, before sunrise.  The gym has a wall of south-facing windows.  In between sets, I look up to see what at first I believed to be the moon.  But remembering I was facing east, I realized it was the rising sun.  The limited visibility of the fog and clouds made the sun appear luminous and white, just like a full moon.  Definitely not what one would typically consider a beautiful sunrise, but certainly one full of awe & magic on this, our first in Colorado, winter solstice morn.

Taking Note

As you well know from previous posts, I LOVE to read!!  It is absolutely and utterly without a doubt one of my favorite pasttimes!  I should have gone into a field where I am paid to read, seriously!

 

While I love to read, I don't possess a lot of books.

Anymore.

 

Books are a bit burdensome during moves, so I have sold a few, donated many.  Books are meant to be read and I certainly do not mind passing them along for another's enjoyment and education.  The few I have kept are very special to me for a variety of reasons.  Right now, and until we are again settled, they are in boxes. 

 

Since I don't like to own too many books, I am a BIG fan of libraries!!  That said, library books must be returned in the condition which you received them.  Meaning, one cannot highlight and write notes in a library book.  Therefore, when I am reading any kind of non-fiction, I scribble plenty of notes on paper.  {I sometimes write things down from fiction, too, if I particularly like a phrase.}

 

I checked out "The Four Agreements" from the library yesterday.  Started it in the afternoon, finished it this morning!  It's a quick read, I promise.  And, boy, did I take notes!!! 

 

I am also in the midst of reading "Women Who Run with the Wolves," which I bought for myself recently.  I have done quite a bit of pink highlighting and underlining in that gem.

 

But I must say that I prefer taking actual notes!  I believe the information sticks with me more when I am spending the time to write down the words that have meaning to me. 

 

I will type my handwritten notes and, eventually, print them out so I can refer to them in the future.  Just as I will review my highlights in the books that are part of The Divine Mrs M's personal library.  So, both efforts culminate in similar results. 

 

And, how about you?  Are you a note taker and a highlighter-er?  If so, are you good about going back at some later date to review and refresh?  I did recently with notes I had taken (and typed) from "The Tao of Womanhood," which I read several years ago, and it was a rewarding experience, filled with reminders and encouragement that I needed at the right time. 

 

Next on my reading list is don Miguel Ruiz's "The Mastery of Love," which appears to be another quick, yet succinct read.  Another couple sessions of reading and feverish note-taking, to be sure!

 

I am always interested in book recommendations, both fiction and non-fiction, please feel free to share some of your favorites in the comments.  And, if you should want any recommendations, you can check my Books to Read board on Pinterest and/or I am happy to respond in the comments.

 

Remember, reading is FUNdamental!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lucky Me

I just have to give a big shout-out to my wonderful hubby who is giving me the gift of time!

 

While I am taking a bit of a sabbatical here in Colorado, he gives me no grief!

 

While I search for myself, a new direction, something more...he supports me, both financially and psychologically.

 

While I spend my time at home or the coffee shop reading & writing, he encourages my budding author aspirations.

 

And, for now, I happily fulfill the housewife duties to pull my share. 

 

This move has been exactly what we expected, and, yet, not.  The things over which we have had some semblance of control, we are spot-on.  The other things, like the freakish weather, well, those we have ridden out. 

 

I look forward to the next 2 weeks of Chris being off from work and we get to hang together from sun-up to sun-down!  I've missed him! 

 

Love you, Wolfie!

KAML & MAML

So, yesterday, I hopped the bus from Longmont to Denver!  Go, Me! 

 

My cousin, Kyle, was staying with his friend, Mark, for a few days.  We, along with my other cousin, Matt, his girlfriend, Emily and their daughter, Audrey, were invited for drinks & dinner.

 

Mark recently returned from studying culinary in Italy!  He was our chef for the evening!  We enjoyed homemade ravioli, the most delicious pork loin, asparagus (with a bacon mustard sauce!!) and pumpkin-cream cheese pie (recipe courtesy of Mark's mom).

 

Mark and his brother, Eric, just moved to Denver.  Mark is planning to get a food truck going, but it won't be the usual, already-prepared food.  Mark wants it more like a market, wherein customers buy his homemade Italian foods to cook at home.  They can stop on the way home, on the way to the kids' games, on the way to a friend's and buy homemade dinner!! 

 

Kyle rented the community room in Mark & Eric's apartment complex, so we had this huge room to enjoy cocktails, our dinner and plenty of conversation!  I brought some old pics of the boys (me & Chris, too) to share laughs over!  We took plenty of photos of Audrey Helen, many in her new hats from Uncle Kyle!  We got a fantastic family photo of all of us...coincidentally, we were dressed in blues & blacks as if we planned one of those matchy-matchy holiday photo shoots! 

 

Kyle & Matt are brothers to me.  I lived with them (& their parents) for 5 years, until Chris & I moved in together.  We have been able to spend most holidays together over the years, even when they have lived away from our home town.  What a joy to be able to spend time with both of them for our first Christmas season in Colorado!!!

 

I really enjoyed hanging with Mark & Eric, too, and look forward to seeing them again...even sans Kyle!  They are fun guys, who enjoy food, wine & beer!  And if I can work with Mark in the food truck while building his business in the hope of opening a brick & mortar location, all the better!!  In just the few weeks they have been in Denver, they have been eating & drinking their way around the city!  They are living in the Baker section, where we hadn't yet been, and it looks to have a pretty cool vibe with bars, restaurants and coffeeshops within walking distance.  (Tho, it may be too pricey for our needs...much research will be undertaken over the next 6 months!)

 

Back to my bus ride.  We received 2 free passes as a welcome to Colorado.  RTD-Denver has a great system.  I called customer service to verify the stops in Longmont and Jake was super helpful!  The bus was clean and comfortable.  The ride was a bit longer than scheduled because of construction and rush-hour traffic.  But, I brought a book and was able to zone out & read.  I rode all the way to the final destination, Market Street Station, and then walked a couple blocks along the 16th Street Mall to where Chris was awaiting me in his car!  It worked perfectly, so that we weren't both driving to & from Denver!!! 

 

It was a late nite; we didn't get home until after 11, but I wouldn't have missed a minute of time with our family and new friends!!

 

The only thing I would have changed....knowing it was Festivus!  We could have demonstrated feats of strength on the pool table or Ms. Pacman game.  Followed by the airing of grievances and making a Festivus pole.  Ah, well ~ we know how to bring a good time to any gathering!  We Longs are nothing if not party peeps!! 

 

 

The Four Agreements

I receive a variety of emails from blogs.  This morning, I clicked on Oprah's message because the subject read "4 Rules Happy People Live By."  Of course, I want to learn those four "rules," right?  Who wouldn't?  It's only four!!  However, the first link in the email was "Your Guide to Fulfillment."  Immediately, I clicked on it!!! 

 

There were short video clips, from Oprah's Super Soul Sunday (which I should really make an effort to watch or, at the very least, search the online library) discussing "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz.  I have never heard of him or his book, but the small intro paragraph mentioned two of the four agreements and I felt this was right up my alley. 

 

What a gift!!!

 

I strongly encourage you to watch the clips and I will quickly share with you the Four Agreements:

 

Be impeccable with your word

Don't take things personally

Don't make assumptions

Always do your best

 

Are you intrigued?  Did you watch, yet?  How about now?  It's only about 10 minutes total...What are you waiting for?

 

I can assure you that I will be looking for this one at my library and taking copious notes! 

 

Just from the small video snippets, I learned about myself!  I tend to do 2 & 3 too frequently and I know they are a couple of my weaknesses. 

 

These four simple agreements with MYSELF will help me to live mindfully.

 

(And for my fellow fitness aficionados: when Oprah talks about keeping her word to herself about exercise, I knew exactly where she was coming from!!!  And that helped me to get my booty to the gym for my strength training this AM!!)

 



Have I Had Enough?

I have been very lucky to reconnect with old friends, stay connected with family & friends who live around the country and make new friends with Facebook.  I have been on it for several years now, after an old friend “found” my profile, which I only created at the request of my mom (who never uses it herself)!  Initially, it was pretty exhilarating!!  I loved seeing everyone’s pictures and catching up a bit.  Plus, it was close to our 20-year high school reunion and Facebook was a huge tool for organizing the event.  

I enjoy seeing all the pictures of my nieces & nephews, as well as my sisters and brothers, on Facebook.  I wouldn’t have seen my sister, Kelley’s, wedding pics, otherwise.  When things started in this digital direction, we would share via emails and online photo albums, which required invitations.  I rather liked it that way. 

How about Pinterest?  I enjoy the inspiration for food, crafts, clothes, decorating.  I have boards.  I share Pins.  I “like” Pins.  I comment on Pins.  I have, on occasion, even utilized the Pins I have saved.  For the most part, tho, they sit in my profile….”collecting dust,” like the torn out pages of magazines and the cookbooks of yore.  The difference, much less storage space and no actual dusting required with the digital collections.   

I have a blog page.  I have been writing more than ever recently.  Perhaps because I have more time now that I am on sabbatical or because I think about writing more than before…or, more likely than not, a bit of both.  I read several blogs, too.  I find myself drawn more to blogs which offer topics on simplicity, mindfulness, compassion, generosity over those which are a tad more “fluffy”. 

It’s just where society has been heading.  Everything, primarily, shared via social media sites.   

Lately, tho, I have been struggling with our virtual communities. 

I am again thinking of severely limiting my “visits” to social media.  I need a break from the bragging, the bitching, the whining, the sports play-by-plays and, even, the ignorance.  

I also need the break because I sense myself being judgmental at times.  Like wondering (from what they have shared)   in what reality someone lives when it appears to be incongruous with their roles & responsibilities.   

There is a fakeness to Facebook (maybe we should change the name to FAKEbook) that is in opposition to my values.   

I know that I can “hide” and “unfriend,” which I have done.  But I know I might miss something of importance should I do either and I would like to be able to congratulate or sympathize on the “big” things.  More importantly, I don’t want to miss the photos of my nieces & nephews!!! 

I know that I will have to work a bit harder to find the jewels I desire amid the detritus.  I will need to actively seek out those moments of interaction.   

I have had wonderful phone conversations with my grandma recently and I so appreciate the gift.  I spend time on the phone with my mom, too.  We don’t communicate via social media or emails.  I’ve spoken to a couple of my aunts back in Indiana since our move, too.  I think I am going to get back to the art of conversation.  There are those with whom I want to remain connected and also feel the strong need to hear their voices.  There is nothing like the joy, sorrow, sarcasm, laughter and love that comes with one’s voice ~~ we can choose the right words, but we cannot get the full effect without the inflection.   

I will spend more time reading my books.  Books that are helping me to crack open my shell to further connect with myself and find what stirs my passions.   

I will spend more time being active, rather than passive.  I feel I have been a bit of an ostrich, with my head buried online.    

I need to practice not comparing myself to others.  It is easy to believe that what is shared online is the real story, but I need to remember that so much more is happening “behind the scenes” and it is difficult to come out from the persona.   

I want to write about topics that are meaningful to me and that, hopefully, can help, encourage or inspire others.   

To do so, I need to free myself from the influence & bias that I glean from social media.



The Gift of Kindness

This time of year can be very harried and stress-filled.  It is easy to let the tension build.  We sometimes react harshly.  To ourselves and those closest to us.

 

I propose that, in addition to being generous in your gift-giving, you give the free gift of kindness!!

 

No negative talk to yourself.  You are a beautiful soul.  You deserve to enjoy this time of year.  You don't have to be over-burdened with self-imposed expectations.  You aren't solely responsible for everyone's holiday happiness.

 

Don't expect perfection, in you or others.  Ask for or accept help from your family, friends, co-workers.  You don't have to make all of the Christmas cookies alone ~ enlist the kids!  They will love to help!!  You will be laughing, sharing...making memories and, hopefully, traditions!

 

Be present in your moments throughout the day:

While getting the kids ready for school.  Talk to them.  Smile at them.  Hug them.  Compliment them.

 

While in line at the store.  Smile at the strangers, the stockers, the cashiers.  Offer a kind word.

 

While driving to & fro.  Turn off your phone for several minutes.  Think positive thoughts about yourself.  Send affirmations to your loved ones.  Drive mindfully. 

 

While making dinner.  Think about those for whom you are preparing this meal.  Sprinkle every dish with the secret ingredient: LOVE.

 

With your spouse or significant other.  Talk, share, compliment, hug.  Just as important as showing our children they are valued, our life partner needs and deserves the same.

 

I leave you with a few quotes on kindness:

 

What this world needs is a new kind of army - the army of the kind.  ~Cleveland Amory

Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.  ~Mark Twain

Wherever there is a human being, there is an opportunity for a kindness.  ~Seneca

Three things in human life are important. The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind. ~Henry James

And my favorite, from one of my favorite authors, thanx to my mom sharing him with me oh-so-many years ago:

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.  ~Leo Buscaglia

 

 



Throwing Down the Gauntlet...or Rather, the Warm Woolen Mitten

I have friends who are pagan, wiccan, atheist, agnostic, Catholic, Jewish, Christian (my BEST friend, the person with whom I spend my life... surprised, aren't you???).

 

I love to send holiday cards.  Ask Chris, it was sort of an addiction.  I would scour the stores and hide the cards I liked in order that I could get them at the day-after Christmas sales!!!  There was no rhyme or reason to my selection.  One year it's a winter scene of penguins, another is vintage-inspired, several have had Santas.  Whatever design spoke to me!! 

 

I (We) no longer participate in the gift-giving extravaganza into which Christmas has fallen.  I won't lie.  We used to give gifts to ourselves, our families, our friends.  Over the years, however, we have made the conscious choice to not be part of the madness. 

 

We like to buy for the less-fortunate.

 

We like to donate to food banks.

 

This year, for the first time, we are spending time in service at a soup kitchen.  (The day after Thanksgiving and Christmas Eve.)

 

It is presumptuous of me to think I know what you & yours celebrate, isn't it?  Or to assume that what I believe, so do/should you.  I may only see or talk to you once between now and the new year.  If I wish a "Happy Holidays", which I will, why should that offend?  I am offering seasonal greetings that cover any and all observances to transpire between now and the coming of the new year!!! 

 

I am disappointed by those who harp on and spread the propaganda that they are no longer ALLOWED to say Merry Christmas.  {Will you be jailed?}  Or that Christ has been taken out of Christmas.

 

To you, I say, let your actions speak louder than your words.  Do you think your God would be complaining about this?  Or do you think, perhaps, he might be practicing the concepts of peace, love, understanding and hope?  Do you think YOU have acted in accordance with your spiritual leader, your religious doctrines?  Don't give lip service ~ that makes you part of the problem, be a part of the solution!   

 

What have you DONE to share the spirit of the season with your fellow human beings?

 

Please don't send me a card with religious iconography and then let me see you brag about the endless toys, gadgets, clothes you gave & received for Christmas. 

 

Please don't tell me that what I believe or what I practice diminishes your holiday observances, traditions or beliefs.  {Why would you give me such power over your life, anyway????}

 

I am a pagan with strong wiccan influence.

 

I will extend peace, love & understanding while spreading the message of hope. 

 

 I will be out ringing the bell for the Salvation Army on Friday, December 20th from 4-6PM outside of the King Soopers on Pace, here in Longmont.  (I can't wait!!!  Antlers and all!)

 

What about you?  Have you given of your time or your wallet this year to others outside of your immediate circle of family & friends? 

 

Look at what you have spent on Christmas gifts and donate half that amount to a charity! 

 

I challenge you to join me!  PLEASE donate to a food bank, a toy drive, a family you know who is struggling!  Lend a hand at a church soup kitchen!  Contact Toys for Tots or the Salvation Army to see if you can help distribute toys or ring the bell for the red kettle drive!

 

There is no monopoly on the "Reason for the Season".

 

Unless, of course, you mean a generosity of spirit that is sown by charitable actions done solely out of peace, love and understanding for a fellow human whose needs far outweigh your wants.

Blessed Be.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

On this date in 1979

I was 7 1/2 years old.

 

Late in the nite we received a phone call.

 

My mom began to hyperventilate.

 

I had no idea who was on the other end of the phone or what could possibly have my mom in such a state.

 

I would soon learn...

my mom's youngest brother, Steve, age 15 1/2 was dead.

 

He and several friends were in a car that the driver lost control of on any icy & hilly street.  The driver, also Steve, and my uncle (who was sitting behind the driver) were the only 2 to die. 

 

My uncle's neck was broken.

 

We lived in Indiana, my grandparents & uncle in Ohio.

 

It was an 8-hour drive.

 

We quickly packed and were on our way.  My brother and I probably slept; it seemed like we made it in record time.

 

I remember walking in to my grandparents' house, it was completely dark.  My grandpa was just sitting on the couch.  My grandma was in her bed.  It was so different from all the other visits when we erre greeted with smiles & hugs at our arrival.

 

The "kids" had been at Grandpa & Grandma's house trimming the Christmas tree before they headed out for a bit.

 

I adored my Uncle Steve.

 

I couldn't find any paper, but I did find a small piece of cardboard on which I wrote a short poem.  I wanted it placed in his jacket pocket.

 

My uncle Steve was a beautiful person, inside and out.  He was destined for a fun and fabulous life!  He would have been a star of stage or screen!!!

 

Instead, he became a star in the sky for us all.

 

I know he watches over the family. 

 

My great nephew, Casey Isaac, now shares his birthday, May 22nd, bringing joy back to that day.

 

{Years after the accident, a woman found my grandma to tell her that she ran out to the scene, it was in front of her home, and she held my uncle as he passed.  He hadn't been alone.}

 

Stephen Leslie Sigars

5-22-64 to 12-9-79

Our family's shooting star

 

 

 



Blog Love

Friends have shared some amazing blogs with me recently and I just can't keep them to myself!

 

 

Smart Living 365

 

Mind Fuel Daily

 

Both are inspirational and help keep me focused on living mindfully.

 

 

Stretching a Buck

 

Mummy Deals

 

These 2 offer information about sales & savings and, occasionally, a contest or two.  (I won a Target gift card from the Mummy Deals site a couple years ago, so I can attest that these are real!!)

 



An Appreciation of Winter

I just did a search for "winter solstice" and came upon the Wikipedia entry which includes, in alphabetical order, a few dozen celebrations around the world!!  Some are historical in significance, while others are still practiced today.  Awesome!!!  The one that speaks most to me is Yule.

 

The cyclical season of winter is, of course, characterized by cold & snow.  However, it is also a time of hibernation, reflection, rejuvenation.  One can see this in the realms of human, animal and nature.

 

Animals hibernate.  Energy is reserved.  Food has been stored away in anticipation of the cold & snow.

 

Plants lay dormant.  No energy is expended, while awaiting the spring sun & rains.

 

Humans used to have food stores from their bountiful harvests and the "sacrifice" of their animals.  Wood was chopped to keep the home hearth ablaze.  Little time was spent out of doors for fear of freezing to death.

 

In the 21st century, we have many modern conveniences which preclude the necessity of food storage and large hearth fires.  However, we do have the less fortunate among us and those who live far outside of urbanized areas (say farmers, ranchers, etc.) that need to be vigilant about how to eat and stay warm during this harsh season.

 

For those of us in the fortunate situation of having warm homes and full (enough) cabinets and refrigerators, this time can be used to work inside ourselves.  We can reflect back over the past year on our successes, failures, accomplishments, weaknesses, achievements.  On our loves, laughs, sorrows.  Any and every aspect of our life and our selves...the good, the bad & the ugly, as they say.

 

I suspect the idea for New Year's resolutions came about after a reflective practice.  It's important to not only acknowledge the past, but also to create a plan, a framework, a list of what we will do in the new year having learned from the old one. 

 

Winter is a seasonal metaphor for the last chapter in our lives, as we can look back with all of our years of living and wisdom to see the path we have traveled.  A time when, as elders, we can be looked upon for advice.  A time when expediency is abhorred, and leisurely enjoyment of each day is foremost (perhaps because of a more focused view of one's mortality).   

 

Winter is the crone aspect of the witch triad.  The final of the three phases.  The elder, the wizened woman.

 

We can choose to hibernate or lay dormant or we can choose to reflect and learn. 

 

We can prepare ourselves for spring, a time of renewal and rebirth, by taking a critical look at ourselves, our finances, our marriage, our families, our friendships and carve out what no longer serves us and strengthen what feeds us. 

 

I'm not saying you have to make a resolution list, as those last about as long as the winter season, at most!  I am saying take each season and use it, both symbolically and literally, for inner work.  A process, which can be marked quarterly, yearly, seasonally, for a lifetime. 

 

It's never too late to look back, it's never too late to be in the moment and it's never too late to be forward thinking.  The important thing to remember is to take time to assess and learn and grow.

 

 

Winter will give way to spring, which will pass to summer that will lead to fall, which returns to winter.

 

Just like all of nature, we have the capacity to adapt.

“The mystery of life isn’t a problem to solve, but a reality to experience.”  Frank Herbert

 

 

 



Financial Fitness

As any of you who have been reading my posts know, I am at a crossroads and am trying to figure some things out.  I have been reading some awesome books and will begin another today!  I have a friend to whom I suggested a book I read several years ago and she has been sharing tidbits of wisdom from her readings, which has helped me for different reasons than it is helping her.  It's sort of our own virtual book club/support group!

 

In my effort to help my friend, I stumbled upon some notes in an old journal that I made after watching a July 11, 2001 episode of Oprah!!  The theme was finances.  While Chris and I are pretty damn good about frugality and saving (which afforded us the chance to come to Colorado before obtaining jobs!), it was good for me to review.

 

The first helpful hint list:

 

Saving - To Be a Millionaire

~Take lunch to work (don't eat out!)

~Eat dinners at home (don't eat out!)

~Make a budget

~Assess needs and wants

~Make one monthly trip to the ATM

~Buy generic

~No cable TV

~Nickel & dime yourself out of debt

~Pay yourself first each month

 

Now, remember, this was advice from 2001 and while most of it is timeless, I know there are a couple that might not be applicable in 2013. 

 

We considered no cable/satellite upon moving to Colorado and getting a Netflix and/or HuluPlus account.  However, I want to see local news programming, especially in the mornings for Chris's commute.  We went with the most basic bundle of internet and satellite, but if there is a way to have local TV programming without a digital provider, let me know!  (Chris says we can just get a digital antenna that plugs into our flat screen...anyone????)

 

Also, most of us probably don't use the ATM since we can get cash in other ways.  Just use your common sense here and get your monthly allotment of spending money only once and use it wisely!

 

The second helpful hint list:

 

8 Secrets to Become Wealthy

"Ordinary People/Extraordinary Wealth"

~Carry a mortgage on your home

~Don't diversify in your 401K (also maximize your contribution)

~Wealth came from investments of $1000 or less

~Rarely move from one investment to another

~Don't measure success against the DOW or S&P500

~Devote less than 3 hours per month on personal finances

~Money management is a family affair

~Don't pay attention to the media (they are present-oriented, rather than future)

 

So, I am guilty of moving investments!  At one time, we started a mutual fund account and later added individual IRAs with a family member.  That person failed to regularly check in with us to let us know how he thought our investments were faring and if we should take more or less risk.  He then left the business altogether without bothering to inform us!!!  We stopped our monthly electronic funds transfer for those investments about a month before our move.  I doubt we will resume contributions, but I hope to find a way to get these accounts moved elsewhere with little, if any, loss.  We also both have investments through former employers.  I don't have any financial acumen (tho I wish I did b/c I do have a head for numbers & the like), but I have tried to direct our monies the best I can, which hasn't always resulted in profits.  Not that anyone can predict the market, I know, but I suspect if we had a financial manager that person might keep a closer eye on what our funds are doing.  I must admit I am grossly behind in checking the quarterly statements for any of our investments!!

 

One of the best pieces of advice I ever received was from my grandpa:  He told me that anytime an employer offers to match my investment amount I MUST take advantage of it b/c it's free money!!!  I did this when I was employed at Walmart in the early-mid '90s, as they did a matching on stock purchases.  We did this with Valparaiso University, Chris's last employer, as they did a percentage matching, too.  Chris's current employer requires a 4% contribution and I know they have some type of matching, but I am not too versed on it...yet!

 

I also found another note scribbled sideways in this same journal:

Age 20-60, save $3/day.  You will have $1 million.

Now, I did the math of 365 days times 40 years (14,600 days) which I then multiplied by $3 to get $43,800.  I suspect that the daily investment needs to be placed in an interest bearing account of some sort in order to reach that one million mark!!!  However, I didn't care to write that down, I guess!!! 

 

When Chris & I were both working back in Indiana, we were super savers!!!  I look forward to working again in order to get back to the "business of saving"!  I guarantee that once you start to see your account grow, you will be far more excited about that than any needless item from a store.

 

I simply adore the wisdom of both Suze Orman and Jean Chatsky.  These ladies are smart and know how to share financial advice in a way that us ordinary people can understand, appreciate and put into practice!

 

If you have any tips you are willing to share, please comment.  I welcome all the help I can get in this realm of the adult world!

 

Wishing you Buon Fortuna in 2014!!

 

Christmas Meal Musings

Mulling over what to make for Christmas.  We did a traditional meal for Thanksgiving, so...

 

I was thinking a Latin theme for this holiday b/c Chris wants to make Puerto Rican rice again. 

 

But I am now leaning more toward a breakfast extravaganza!!!

 

Chris's Corn Fritter Casserole

Sweet Potato Hash

Bacon from Lucky's Market

Fried potatoes

Pumpkin or Sweet Potato "cupcakes" (that I didn't make for Thanksgiving)

Mimosas

 

We can do Latin for New Year's!!  Ole!

 



Baby, It's Downright Freezing Outside!

So, lucky us!  The week we move to Colorado, our county experiences floods like they haven't seen in 500 years!  Destroying the St. Vrain Greenway, a pathway throughout Longmont for walking, hiking & biking ~ low on the priority list for repairs (we were paying $1 on our electric bills to maintain them...now we will pay $4 for repairs and I doubt we will be living here when they are ready for use again!!)  Damaging major roadways, so that we weren't able to take the shorter route from Longmont to Estes Park, nor were we able to do any mountain hiking.  And this week, the coldest temps on record in 15 years!  When we woke this morning, the actual temp was below zero...before the wind chill factor!!! 

 

Are you thinking what I'm thinking?  Have WE affected the weather?  Is Mama Nature pissed that we moved?  Or is she just testing our fortitude for living in this, usually, beautiful part of the country?

 

We KNOW this weather from Indiana....and we believed we were leaving it behind!

 

As I posted on my Facebook page, I want the sunshine, rainbows & unicorns I was promised!!!

 

When Chris left for work, I went out with him to start my car and clear off yesterday's snow. We only have access to a one-car garage here and since Chris is the only one working, he gets to park in it.  Let me say, I really miss the 2-car garage at the Ogden Dunes rental!!!  (For only one year in my life have I been able to park in a garage and it was a joy!)  We have remote start on our cars, so I started the car, reached in to turn the heat up to high, the rear defrost on and grab the scraper.  There were several inches of accumulation, but it was light and able to be just brushed off.  HOWEVER, it was only minutes before my fingers were tingling and super cold!!!  Yikes!!  During yesterday morning's Denver newscast, an outside reporter said he had purchased new gloves on Tuesday because he hadn't needed them in so long!  So, I don't think I will run out and buy below-zero worthy gloves, especially since we aren't skiers or snow boarders!!  I am remaining hopeful that this arctic blast, like the floods, is an anomaly that we won't see again during our time in SUNNY Colorado!  

 

The cabinet with our glasses & mugs is also where we store our coffees.  What an intoxicating aroma each & every time I open those doors.  Warming beverages are what keep me going on days like today.

 

That and the fact that I don't have to go outdoors unless I choose to do so! 

 

I have realized that I am most creative when I can see, hear and feel the outdoors.  In an effort to stay warm and save on energy costs, we covered our windows (all but one upstairs) and the sliding glass door with plastic on Sunday.  I can now only see the nature that exists outside my door.  I can no longer hear the birds or the neighbor's wind chime or feel the breeze (not that I would be opening the slider the past few days and for several to come, but you know what I mean, right?).  I feel I have to work a little harder to find the words and topics to share here.  I do have some ideas written in a journal and saved in a document on my computer that need some developing.  I know that if I focus I can hash out my thoughts.  I think I will mull them over while doing mundane chores today.  I find that complete sentences come to me when I am in the midst of something, when I don't have pen & paper handy!  Of course!!  When I am letting my unconscious mind have free reign.  At these times, I am always wishing I had a recorder to speak the words as they are forming because I just know I won't get it exactly the same when I get the chance to jot it down. 

 

I will take the time to enjoy our Christmas tree alight.  I will delight in the knowledge that my Christmas cards are all out (well, all but one for a special family) and that I don't have to shop.  I will do all of my indoor "chores" so that when the weather breaks, even a little, I am free to roam.  I will look thru our holiday DVDs and pick out one or two for us to watch tonite!!  I will plot our weekend to include the light parade in Boulder and a visit to Tattered Cover!!!!

Maybe I should take my own advice and make a snowman or, at least, toss a few snowballs in the air.

 

I will be thankful that I have a warm home on this bitterly cold day and hope that those who do not have found themselves a safe & warm place to shelter from this week's winter slap in the face. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 



Reuse & Recycle: Christmas Cards

For years, I have saved the fronts of cards (Christmas, birthday, anniversary, thank you).  Some I have framed (Christmas and Halloween) and others I make into postcards!  I have sent a few birthday postcards and this year, I sent out 33 Christmas postcards from cards I received from our family and friends over the years!!

 

When I was young, my aunt, Karen, made placemats from her old cards.  Check out this Pinterest!!  They are identical to her handiwork! 

 



Recycle: Bedding & Towels

Did you know your local animal shelters & pet rescues welcome your old sheets, towels and blankets (along with donations of food, treats, litter, toys, laundry detergent and bleach)? 

 

So, when you treat yourself to new, please launder your old and drop them off for the animals who need them for bedding while awaiting forever homes.   

 

{Perhaps you will fall in love with a dog, cat, puppy or kitty and bring one home to your loving family!}

Reuse: Coffee Grounds

Gather your used coffee grounds and spread them around your landscaping! 

 

If you don't have enough of your own grounds or you aren't a coffee drinker (WHAT?!?!), your local Starbucks ~and sometimes other small coffeehouses~ will have a bag or two near the front free for your taking!

 

Happy Gardening!

 

P.S.  You can toss your eggshells out there, too.  Your plants will love you!!

Reduce: Shopping Bags

For many years, Chris and I have transported shopping bags (reusable, plastic & paper) in the trunks of our cars for our grocery shopping at Aldi, where, if you don't bring your own bags, you will get charged for bags or you need to scrounge up a box or two.  It's also strongly encouraged to bring in your own bags at Trader Joe's.  Eventually, I started taking my reusable bags into the chain stores, as well (Walmart, Meijer, PayLow and SaveaLot).

 

Our two new favorite grocery stores in Colorado are big proponents of reusable bags.  They offer bag credits, either as a discount off your bill or as a donation to one of three local organizations. 

 

Let's try to minimize our dependence on plastic shopping bags and help reduce what we send to landfills.

Making the Most of the Holidays (by spending the least!)

Chris and I have been doing our best to live "the simple life" for many years now.  We love to shop Goodwill and thrift stores.  We both have tons of used clothes!!  We head straight for the clearance sections at Target!  While we see many things we like and know would look great at our place or on ourselves, we can easily walk away from making the frivolous purchase (for the most part).  We aren't driven by material things.  We love to use coupons.  We are avid users of our local libraries for books, music & DVDs.  We reduce, reuse & recycle.

 

We also like to enjoy activities, especially those that celebrate holidays, on the cheap.  We want to make memories, but they don't have to cost a paycheck! 

 

So here are some free or cheap ways to share holiday  spirit:

~Bake cookies

I am sure many of you have some family recipes to pass along.  My Grandma Long made Christmas cut-outs.  Some of my aunts continued to make them and now my cousin, Tam, bakes them with her two daughters.  It is an annual tradition for the three of them!  I am sure her girls will look back fondly on these times and, hopefully, share the recipe with their own children!!

 

~Watch DVDs

Put on your PJs and snuggle under blankets while sipping hot chocolate and spend a couple hours (or more if you do a whole marathon - go for it!!) watching your fave Christmas movies.  I recommend Elf, Rudolph the Red-nosed Reindeer, Frosty the Snowman, Scrooge, White Christmas, Santa Claus is Coming to Town, How the Grinch Stole Christmas.

 

~Decorate

Trim the tree, hang your stockings and go about making the whole house festive.  You could share the stories behind some of the ornaments.  I have some very special ceramic ornaments that my mother painted and she was so very talented!  They hang on our tree every year and I can't help but smile when I see them (I have shared half of them with my brother and I hope that he is using them).  And don't forget to play music and dance!  Our Christmas mornings when I was younger ALWAYS included the Elvis Christmas album because my dad was a big Elvis fan.  I can't listen to (any) Elvis without thinking of my dad and those early Christmases!!

 

~Read Christmas Books

Just like with watching movies, cuddle up in your PJs with a cup of hot cocoa and read together. 

 

~Volunteer

Gather the kids and spend an afternoon volunteering at your local food pantry, animal rescue, homeless shelter or soup kitchen.  This is such an intrinsically rewarding experience and it teaches us all the valuable lesson of being charitable and appreciating what we have in our lives.

 

~Ice Skating, Sledding, Walking the Neighborhood or the Woods

Be active!  If we have to live where there is snow, then we should take advantage of the outdoor activities a little snow provides.  I love walking around the neighborhood to see everyone's decorations.  Grab that hot chocolate or coffee in a to-go cup, bundle up and head out into the winter wonderland!  And while you are out there, build a snowman or make a snow angel!  (I'm not just talking to the kids here!  Just a couple years ago, I dropped myself right into the snow and made a snow angel for the first time in decades!  It was hilarious!)  A walk in the woods after a light dusting of snow would be so peaceful and you would see so many things differently than in any other season.

 

~Attend Community Events

Last weekend, we attended a holiday street lighting in a neighboring city and tonite we will be attending our city's Christmas tree lighting.  We are treating ourselves to a hot cup of coffee and a donut!  We also plan to attend a couple festival of lights parades!!   

 

~Make Ornaments

For a handful of years, my family (on my dad's side) would make ornaments for our gifts.  Some were very elaborate and others less involved, but they all were special because we knew the gifter had taken time out of her schedule to handicraft.  One of my aunts made painstakingly small cross stitch ornaments one year.  I made ice cream cones with glass ball ornaments glued to real sugar cones!  There were also years that I made wreaths instead.  I remember my mom making wreaths out of a metal hangar, clear plastic baggies and a big red bow!!!  They would probably be considered retro these days and she could make a fortune!  As a family, you could sit at the table and construct something together or each make your own creation.  I even made Chris a "special" ornament one year: it's a sled made from popsicle sticks with a small piece of holly, that I made from felt and a red bead.  I see it hung on our tree right this moment!! 

 

This list, of course, isn't all-inclusive and I sincerely welcome suggestions in the comments!  Part of the fun is in the hunt! 

 

In the infamous words of Buddy, the Elf

"The best way to spread Christmas cheer is singing loud for all to hear."

 

Don't be shy, sing along, loud & proud! 

Let's set the spirit meter ablaze!

 

 

 

 



Thanksgiving Eve

It's the day before our first Thanksgiving in Colorado.  And what a gorgeous day we have had here today!  Warm-ish temps (no coat required) and plenty of sunshine!!  And Chris was able to leave work early, which meant we could head out for a bit before it was dark (damn daylight savings time!).

 

I made my World Famous Cranberry Cherry Walnut dish this morning.  Tell me, who doesn't love the smell of fresh orange zest?!?

 

We have all the necessary ingredients for our respective dishes and I am going to cook a whole chicken in the crockpot for the first time. 

 

It's going to be a bit strange to not be heading to my aunt's (and we will certainly miss all of her super delicious foods), but we have lived away from family when we were in Florida, so being alone for the holidays isn't all that new to us.  Last nite my cousin, Matt, invited us to join them at his girlfriend's father's home, but we already had our plan to make food here and graze throughout the day!  (Plus, we get all the leftovers to enjoy all weekend long!!!)

 

It doesn't really "feel" like a holiday, tho.

 

It's all about the changes we knew to expect by taking the road less travelled and moving in the direction of our dream.

 

I am thankful for my husband and our health.  I am thankful for our financial ability to make this big life change.  I am thankful that my family members are healthy and that many of them will be gathering together tomorrow to break bread.  I am thankful that my grandparents are still with us and that they remember the important dates in our life.  I am thankful that Chris was able to land a university job very shortly after our arrival to Colorado.  I am thankful that we both have vehicles in good working conditions.  I am thankful that I have some amazing girlfriends who inspire me, encourage me and look out for me.  I am thankful that I can take this break from working.  I am thankful that we have a nice place to live and can surround ourselves with things that make anywhere we live our home.  I am thankful for our fur babies, as they make us a family.  I am thankful for the travel opportunities Chris and I have enjoyed thru the years and look forward to many more. 

 

I hope we can all see the things in our lives, big & small, for which we can be thankful.  I intend to continue to practice an attitude of gratitude throughout the year.  Please join me!

 

 



Heels

I have worn heels the past two days.  Yesterday, a pair of heeled short boots with my embroidered jeans.  Today, my black & white heeled shoes with black jeans.

 

Our arrival to Colorado has brought many changes and one of those is, of course, that I am not working in an office and, therefore, don't have the need to wear my "work" clothes.  (Some, I didn't even unpack b/c I figured why bother.  Truth be told, they are mostly dresses that I would wear in the summer, but still...)  It's weird to see the shirts, pants, skirts, jackets that I would rotate thru just hanging there...waiting, waiting, waiting.  Funny thing is, I would look into my closet (pre-move) and dislike anything and everything ~ I had grown weary of the same old things! 

 

Wearing my heels connects me to the years I spent working in a (semi) professional setting.  And while I am not dressing for work these days, and I don't have anywhere of import to go, it feels DAMN good to wear my heels again!!  I was almost never in flat shoes, other than the gym!  I'm, like, short, here in CO!   

 

Kinda silly, right?

 

I have the days I want to dress "down" and be comfy with my imitation Chuck Taylors or the days I feel a bit more bohemian and like to wear sandals and flow-y shirts and the days I am a bit more "edgy" with my black boots, tights and short skirts!!!  I am unsure if I am attempting to find my style post-move, but I think we all satisfy our different personalities thru our outfits.

 

Today, I am an eclectic mix ~ which is pretty spot-on with my mental state, as of late ~ to my heels and jeans, I add a white tank, gray zippered jacket and multi-layered black/gray/clear/silver beaded necklace! 

 

And where might I be wearing this fabu ensemble, you ask? 

 

A jaunt to the library, I answer! 

 

 

 

 

 



Eleven Twenty-Five Ninety-Two

11-25-92

 

The day we were married.

 

21 years of committed friendship, love & laughter.

 

Our first anniversary in our new home state, Colorado.  We are celebrating in 3 parts:

 

Last nite, we visited Boulder to watch the lighting of Pearl Street.  There were carolers.  We were all awaiting Santa (& his Mrs.) to flip the switch.  It was worth the chilly wait, the magic happened when the trees all around us and the front of the county building came to life!  It's beginning to look a lot like Christmas...

 

We decided to find a place for our dinner & early celebratory beverages.  We passed thru the door and entered another world...well, country!  The Bohemian Biergarten ~ Perfect choice!  This German brewpub on 13th, just north of Pearl Street, which opened this year, is filled with communal wooden tables & benches and live music, with servers dressed in true German-style.  I decided on a draught hefeweizen (of course) and Chris, a cider.  We ordered a big pretzel for an appetizer and enjoyed it with a couple mustards, the House & the Heaven!  Chris ordered the Reuben sandwich with fries and I, the pork loin with potato pancakes ~~ both excellent choices!

 

What a thoroughly enjoyable evening!  I am glad we went the way of trying some place new!!  We will return!  It reminded both of us of Cabaret!!

 

Today, we will have a quiet evening at home.  I am making a cranberry pork roast in the slow cooker.  We'll enjoy dark chocolate & caramel almonds, coconut chocolate cookies and some decaf for dessert (while watching Two Broke Girls). 

 

Part 3 of our celebration will be this Friday, here in downtown Longmont, watching the lighting of the Christmas tree...while staying warm sipping Ziggi's coffee and eating our first Winchell's donut! 

 

Our usual anniversary outing is to Chicago, which is clearly impossible, but we are making the most of it by stretching it out and trying new things!! 

 

Trying new things...the theme of our 2013!

 

Happy Anniversary, Wolfie!  Where has the time gone?  We have had an interesting go of things, thus far, and I look forward to having as much or more for the next several decades! 

 

Be ready!

And don't forget to grab the snack bag!

 

 

 



Five Days at Memorial

In October 2011 Chris and I took a vacation to New Orleans.  We fell instantly in love with the Crescent City!!  You can read about our travels here, here, here, here, here, here and here.  I have actually been looking into going back next year.  I really wanted to go for Mardi Gras, which is also close to Chris's birthday, but the prices are just too steep for hotels.  I'll figure something out!! 

 

Last month, I read about a book that chronicled the happenings at a NOLA hospital during Hurricane Katrina and knew I had to read it.  I guess many others read the same review because I had to get on the waiting list before I could get my hands on the book at our library!

 

We hadn't visited pre-Katrina, and we spent our time, mostly, in the French Quarter, which was unaffected by the hurricane and the resulting failed levees.  But I remember the event and have seen photos & footage over the years (hard to believe it happened EIGHT years ago!).  But N'awlins gets in your blood...well, for us, at least...when you spend several days with her!

 

Honestly, if it wasn't for the oppressive humidity, we would have considered a move there.  We tried Tallahassee, so we know it's just not our type of lifestyle.

 

Side note, Chris could have taken a job in NOLA pre-Katrina!  (This was the same time he was applying in Florida.)  It was with a TV station and, even at that time, he was informed that during hurricanes, etc., he would have to remain there, while I evacuated.  Um....that sort of sealed the deal for us! When Katrina and the aftermath came, we were both like, "We could have been caught up in that!"  And I was like, "I would have had to take the cats and leave...you!!" 

 

OK, OK...back to the book.

 

Five Days at Memorial: Life and Death in a Storm-Ravaged Hospital by Sheri Fink

 

My number was finally up last week and I almost haven't been able to put the book down!  It is so well-written, culling information from many sources (the book stemmed from a magazine article).  It begins as Hurricane Katrina is barreling down on the city and follows the tragic and trying circumstances of the next several days within the confines of Memorial Hospital, its doctors, nurses, patients and the family members and pets of those inside.  It encompasses the personal, the medical, the ethical of a microcosm under duress, be it perceived or real.

 

I had an Ethics class during my graduate studies and my professor had a background in nursing and law.  I have emailed her to recommend the book for her AND for her students!  She said she heard about it on NPR, but hadn't yet read it for herself. 

 

I have 100 pages to go and, while I am looking forward to the conclusion (as with any book, be it fiction or non-fiction), I am going to be sort of sad to let it go (to the next voracious reader in the queue).  It is an intimate look into New Orleans, one that I wouldn't want to have lived through, but that from which I am compelled to learn.

 

I hope you will "enjoy" it as much as me and that if you haven't yet visited the Big Easy, you will soon find yourself among her music, her food, her history and her people one day.  It is well worth it!



A Teaching Moment?

I didn't grow up wealthy and I am not wealthy now. 

 

Yet, my childhood Christmases seemed abundant & magical!  I don't remember if I made wish lists, but if I did, I am sure I didn't get everything on them.  However, my parents did a good job of buying things for under the tree and our stockings.

 

We were an artificial tree family.  My mom would get the tree and the boxes of Christmas decorations from the basement.  I looked forward to decorating the tree.  Some ornaments had been store bought, while many others were ceramics that my mother made over the years.  These ornaments meant the world to me and I managed to keep them into adulthood!  {I have since shared some with my brother, since I believe that he should have that part, one of the few happy parts, of our childhood as a reminder, too.  I hope that he uses them and stores them securely, to be handed down to any of his sons in the future.}  Our stockings were the same, year after year, and as with all of the other decorations, were hung in the same place.   

 

One tradition I will never forget:  we were always allowed to select one gift to open Christmas Eve.  I can't recall how I would choose which of the wrapped goodies I couldn't wait to see, tho.  Maybe I would pick something from my grandparents because I would have had no earthly idea what they sent, especially during the years when I had snuck a peek in my mom's closet and pretty much knew what my parents (or Santa) would give me. 

 

I had a keyboard and quickly learned to play Silent Night, so that was a part of our Christmas Eves for several years, as well. 

 

It was just the 4 of us, sitting at home, in our pajamas, around our Christmas tree, listening to Christmas music ~~  simple pleasures.

 

We would usually get new pajamas, some toys and a few other clothing items that we needed.  One year Santa brought me the Charlie's Angels dolls (or Chris would say action figures) ~ there they were, unwrapped under the tree, just waiting for me Christmas morn...that was a BIG deal!

 

Our elementary school would have a Secret Santa store, where we kids could buy things for our parents, siblings, grandparents, friends.  The items were small and inexpensive; I may have only had $5 to spend, but it was always so much fun.  Browsing and deciding ... from among what I would now see as items, most likely, bought from a bulk place like Oriental Trading!  :)

 

Our local mall, for many years, had some of the best holiday displays.  There were these reindeer that were set up down all of the side hallways and around Santa in the center.  (Chris would love to have his hands on them now...)

 

Also, if you were from Crown Point, you went to Gard's...a Christmas mecca.  Cars, with head lights turned off, waited patiently in line, slowly making their way in front of the house, before rolling down the windows to hear the music while watching the mechanized routine of angels around a Christmas tree, the shadows of the three wise men on camels, the painted choir, Joseph alongside Mary on a donkey, the angel on high.  Always the same, but never to be missed!  (I can only imagine what the utility bill was!!  As the years past, the number of days it was up became fewer, of course.)

 

We would spend one nite with my dad's immediate family.  We gathered at my grandparent's where we enjoyed food, company and, for the adults at least, many alcoholic beverages!!  The Long family tradition was that the adults drew names, but everyone could buy for the kids.  The funny thing, tho, is that as an older kid we couldn't wait until we got to be a part of the gift exchange...which, tho we weren't thinking of it at the time, would mean far less gifts!  HA!!  My cousin, Tam, & I are only 4 months apart, so we were treated much like twins.  We would either be given the exact same gift or the same thing just a different color (one year it was huge pom pons: one of us got blue & white, the other purple & white and we couldn't have been happier!!).   

 

Looking back, I see the joy in our gatherings: our family of 4 at home and the much larger (and louder) party at the Long's.  I only barely remember the actual gifts.

 

As adults, Chris and I decided that we were no longer going to buy gifts, for one another or family members.  We bought for Angel Tree kids or Toys for Tots, occasionally dropped off an unwrapped toy when Starbucks collected.  We would make donations to organizations like Food for the Poor in honor of our parents and send them a note to say that a pear tree or 20 chicks had been purchased for a family in a third-world country.  We knew that our nieces & nephews would be getting gifts from their parents and both set of grandparents, plus other aunts & uncles ~~ they would be fine without something from us..it was just one more thing! 

 

My own immediate family members have had (and still have) their unfair share of financial struggles and maybe that is why I am so drawn to charitable causes.  Also why I feel that it is more important to move away from the materialism of the holiday season and bring the focus back to making memories.  It's not about STUFF!

 

One of my cousins, often from his own hand, didn't have much.  He, his wife and their daughter would volunteer their time at Christmas to help out with a toy drive.  I would wonder how my younger cousin would feel, but I really think she just enjoyed what she was doing for those whom she saw as less fortunate than herself.  What a generous spirit!!  A spirit I believe she still possesses to this day, in her early 20's.  Maybe, like me as a kid, she didn't really think she was missing out on anything ~~ that is my hope.  She had lots of extended family (grandparents, aunts & uncles) who gave her gifts and we would have our big family gatherings (this time at an aunt & uncle's rather than our grandparent's who passed well before she was born).  I truly believe that the time spent in charitable works at such a young age was a teaching moment. 

 

A friend from high school has experienced a great financial change and has had to turn to food pantries (she tried and was denied public assistance) to feed her & her 2 children.  I have privately written to her to offer my support, encouragement and any advice/recommendations I can think of.  And I wonder if her kids can see this, possibly, meager Christmas with new eyes.  Maybe she can help her children see that the holiday season is about spending time with their family, that there are others with less (even if this can sometimes be hard to believe), that joy doesn't come from a store.  I hope that my friend can use this holiday season as a teaching moment. 

 

Wishing you JOY, PEACE and "Enough" for the holidays!